The System is Broken, Not You.

I've been sitting with this one a lot this week. It's given me social media ick, forced me to do a mass unfollowing and muting and honestly made me question the whole thing.

I grapple with this at least once a month (usually as I'm PMS'ing lol) but the whole system is broken.

I'm sick of AI emails and scripted robotic content

I'm over quick sales and cheap marketing tactics

I'm rejecting the “how to go viral”  “how to glow up”  “make one decision that changes your life”

Guys, it's all psychological sales BS and I have to share something that became apparent when holding thousands of vulnerable nervous systems.

You're sitting looking at people who “have it all”, the business, the purpose, the freedom, the love of their life, the house of their dreams.

Do you know what they don't have?

Your trauma.

This is not a permission slip to play the victim, it's an acknowledgement that I don't see anyone honouring.

You're not lazy or unambitious, you're not risk averse or uncourageous. If you don't have wealthy parents to fall back on, a stable income is the only source of food on your table and a roof over your head. 

If you don't know what support looks or feels like, then taking the leap doesn't feel as exciting as it does for others with family and friends clapping in their corner, it can feel like the loneliest dark room, consumed by the doubts of everyone around you and those who have come before you who deeply ingrained the fears of their survival, the realism of their scarcity, the trauma of a lifetime of lack.

You cannot and will not “shift state” from surviving to thriving by listening to a motivational speech. It can adjust your ceiling of what you believe is possible but it won't thaw the freeze of your internal world after a lifetime of being scared.

I want you to know that the reason that person is so successful is not because their better than you, it's because the voices of safety told them they could, told them “you cannot fail, because we will always love and support you”

I'm not saying this is impossible for you, if anything when you get there, I want you to know the DEPTH that you hold, the mountains you've climbed will make you more relatable, more human than any pep talk or sales tactic you've ever consumed.

You're not a victim of your circumstance but it has realistically given you more rungs of the ladder to climb.

It doesn't mean you won't get to the top, but you will have to secure your footing before you take the next step. To look up and start stepping we have to trust what'a holding us and know how far the fall is.

Some people have a small ladder, they climb quickly and shout loudly about how incredible the view is from the top.

Some people spend a lifetime making a ladder, building so steadily and securely that it becomes the bridge everyone following behind them accesses, and finally sees what life looks like at the top. 

You will get there, on your own time, not because of some catchy sales line.

You will get there when you learn to deeply respect the wisdom of your body and honour its unique process of shedding the shackles it was given in this lifetime. 

P.s. this was not written with AI so please forgive any grammatical errors or mistakes, it's straight from the heart.

Your embodiment is your resistance. Reject the pressure, the standard, the comparison, the fear, that's not why you're here

Le grá,

Caoimhe